6 Key Steps to Deeper Intimacy (For those Who Seek a More Passionate Relationship)

1. Know Thyself  

“Be in the World with Authentic Self-Hood.” (Charles Christiansen, OT) Get to know yourself better. Know who you are, what you stand for and what your likes and dislikes are.  How well do you know your own body? Do you know what feels good for you? Do you know how to give yourself pleasure and take care of your own needs?

 

2. Strive for Wellness. 

What feeds your Soul? Strive to be more aware of how healthfully you eat/drink/exercise and care for your body and soul. How do you manage stress? Getting regular exercise and getting your body moving is not only great for your heart but also helps to relieve stress and boost energy in everything you do! Participate in meaningful activities (to you) EVERYDAY.

 

3. Care for Your Relationship.

“Real intimacy depends on truth-lovingly told-especially in the bedroom” (Joyce Brothers) Work on achieving depth as a couple. Break free from negative patterns of communication by acknowledging them. Aim to give your partner the loving attention he or she deserves. Establish rituals together. Plan activities and set goals together both for the short and long term. Keep it exciting!

 

4. Carve Out Time.

Create the time and aim for quality (especially if you don’t have quantity!). Find a window, even if you have busy lives. Caring for the relationship requires time set aside for each other. The more you and your partner strive for sexual wellness both individually and together, the more you’ll want to carve out time every day for it.

 

5. Seek to Achieve Balance 

The trickiest thing in life is balance, but when you come close to achieving it, you know because you feel happier! Strive to achieve balance between Work/Play/Self Care/Care Giving/Time for Self/Time for Relationship Building. When your time tips too far in one direction (too much time working for example) then simply become aware and balance it back out.

 

6. Have Sex Often!

Break Free from Routine and Mix Things Up! Don’t fall into the trap of same place, same way mentality! There are so many ways to experience pleasure and deepen intimacy together. Try adding sex toys for fun pleasure play and add lubrication for additional pleasure too.

 

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Restoring Intimacy by filling each others “Love Tanks”

How many times have you looked your loved one in his or her beautiful eyes during a time of conflict and thought to yourself–“Why don’t you understand me?”

You think you’ve expressed yourself clearly…You’ve used the best non-violent communication you know, “I” statements, and even still, he/she stands there, just looking at you, not getting you at all. This is a frustrating time in a relationship.

You want closeness and intimacy with your loved one, but you need to first get to a place of understanding in order to have it.. You want to understand and be understood and more than anything, you want to feel each other’s love.

There have been thousands of books written on the differences in the way men/women communicate, the way different personality types communicate, the way people who were brought up with very different role models communicate, the way people with different astrological signs communicate, etc., etc..

But, I really like how Dr. Gary Chapman breaks it down for us in his book The 5 Love Languages  (which has been read by millions of people around the world). He recommends that when we learn our partner’s love language, we know better how to fill their “Love tank”. Do you say “I love you,” or, Do you show your love with an action or gift? Do you offer a loving touch? Or, Do you give quality time?

What does your loved one need?

If we can know how to love in easy moments, then times of conflict become less difficult.
Restore intimacy in your relationship by first filling each others “Love Tanks.”
Once you feel the love you desire, the intimacy you crave comes naturally.